Hey Guys,

When you first start a conversation with someone you’ve never met before, a lot of the time you will be making small talk for the first few minutes. Well, in the Pickup community this small talk is commonly referred to as “rapport”

When you are trying to build rapport with a woman, you will usually try to find common interests between the two of you. This is soon taken to the next level a lot of the time either having a deeper conversation about something serious, or by joking around about pretend situations where the two of you are on a team together against everybody else (for a great example, read my article Good In Bed/Bad In Bed: The Ultimate Game To Build Strong Sexual Attraction Quickly). There comes a time during almost any interaction with a new woman that playful teasing can become a huge turn on. When done correctly, this can increase your value beyond hers very quickly. If done incorrectly, you can pull yourself out of the game in a heartbeat. I have decided that rather than give you an explanation of how to properly break rapport I would give you a real life example of a situation I was in, and then tell you why I made it work.

Recently I went to a bar an approached a three-set. I became friends with all three very quickly and had my sights set on one in particular. One of the girls noticed that a booth had become available, so we went to sit down. I was sitting on the inside of the booth against the wall and facing my target. The girl sitting next to me was attracted to me but I was not attracted to her. As I started flirting with my target a bit more, the one next to me became jealous and started turning up her level flirting. I was still having a difficult time gauging the attraction level of the girl I was interested in, so I decided to break rapport with the whole group, and put my target in the center of everything.

I ended the current conversation tread we were all having and began a new one that went something like this: “You girls are all really great, and I’m having a blast getting to know you, but it’s a bit distracting with Samantha (my target) sitting over there undressing me with her eyes like that”. The girls started laughing and all looked at Samantha, who at the point dropped her jaw and started to turn red. I knew right away this embarrassed her, so what I said must have been true to some extent.

I decided to keep this little gambit going a bit so I continued by saying “I am not a piece of meat for you to sit there and imagine having your way with. I am a person and expect to be treated as such”. Samantha then grabbed my knee under the table and gave me a smirk and frustrated look before continuing to laugh. When she grabbed my knee I grabbed her hand, and we went a while holding hands under the table.

At that point, it was easy to kiss and number close way before that nights interaction was over.

So what did I do there, any why did it work so well? Basically all I did was find a creative, and playful way to make myself and everyone else at the table on a team in a fake game against my target. If you remember, during rapport and attraction you try and make your target and you on a team against everyone else. By doing the complete opposite, you can have her fighting for your approval, which means your value is now perceived as higher than hers.

Secondly, since I saw my targets reaction was pretty dramatic, I knew I was on to something. Had she either ignored me, rolled her eyes, or something to that nature, I would know she was not completely interested in me yet. After seeing my drop her jaw and turn red, I knew this confirmed she was interested in me. By now making her fight for my (and her own friends) approval, I was able to move right in to holding hands.

Okay guys, I hope this can help to give you some new thoughts on how to help keep your game fresh. You should now try to come up with at least two or three ideas of your own. Remember, once a girl has heard a line once, it will be very hard for it to work on her a second time.

Josh

www.ThePandorasBox.net