Okay, you are probably going to think I am nuts, but having a girl say “No” to you can be your best friend. Let me explain what I mean a little bit. In any sales transaction you can only receive one of three different answers; Yes, No, and Maybe.
If the answer you get is “Yes” than your job is done and you’ve made the sale. This is the same weather you are asking a girl for her number or trying to sell a TV, or anything in between. So what about “No” and “Maybe”? Well let’s start with “Maybe”. “Maybe” sucks! “Maybe” is an answer that comes with contingencies. “Maybe” is what someone says when what they rally mean is “No way in hell am I buying what you are selling, but I’m still going to make you jump through hoops”. Imagine asking a girl to join you for a drink and having her respond with “What about my friends? I can’t let them go thirsty. Can you buy them all a drink as well?” What this girl is really saying is “I have no interest in you, but I’m happy to take your money in exchange for another four minutes of my time”. If you are ever in a situation where a girl is giving you an answer that sounds anything like “Maybe” your best bet is to politely walk away from her. Not only does this mean she has no interest in you, but if you start jumping through her hoops, you will have absolutely no chance with her.
How ever, if you are confident enough, you can try turning her “Maybe” right back on her. In the scenario I just mentioned, you could always trying telling the girl “How about you buy this round, and I’ll get one later?” The problem with this is that if she is really not interested in you, she certainly won’t buy you a drink and now your exit will be that much more awkward.
So this just leaves us with “No”. “No” means that the sale is not yet lost, buy there are obstacles you must get around first. I just to make the point that there are times when there are obstacles you cannot get over, and in these cases you should cut your loses. Image being an Aston Martin salesman, and having someone come in to your showroom. After speaking with this person for a while you ask if they are interested in buying a car, and they tell you “No”. When you ask why not they tell you they have no more room in their garage and need to sell one of their cars first. This is an example of an obstacle that you CAN get over. You can go out of your way to help this customer sell one of their cars in order to purchase yours. However, if when you ask the customer if they would like to buy a car, and they tell you that they can’t because they don’t have a drivers license or any money, than there isn’t a whole lot you can do in this situation.
I understand that this might be a lot of information to try and absorb, but if you grasp this concept, and can recognize it when you are out in the field, you will not only save a ton of time and money on “Maybe” girls, but will also raise your “Yes” percentage by a ton.
Josh
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