How is your January going? Most men go into what I call “Male Hibernation” over the winter months. That’s where guys survive on pizza delivery, video games, and grow a holiday beard. But really, can you blame them? It’s cold, it’s dark, and all the ladies who have ventured out from their caves are wearing parkas. By the time spring rolls around, gym memberships soar 300% because everyone is trying to burn off the winter 10 they put on.

Then they turn to us to help them maximize their attraction potential. If they had just known 3 months ago that the spring would be coming! So take our advice: Get your gym membership renewed and cut out the snacky foods. We have evolved instincts that drive us to pack on the pounds during the winter months, to help us survive. But you have to recognize that these instincts are outdated and even counterproductive in modern society. If you want to be ahead of the curve, you have to think ahead of the curve. So that means NOW, not three weeks before spring break.

Okay, next up.

***The Top 10 list of mistakes men make while meeting women***

(Before we start, I want you to notice that every single one of these mistakes can be fixed! Don’t make the same mistakes that most men do. Helping guys boost their attraction is our specialty at The Pandora’s Box, and we would be happy to work with you to maximize your own dating and mating potential)

#10 – His appearance gives off vibes of lower social status.

You know what they say. If it looks like a chode, and walks like a chode, it must be a chode. Your appearance should give off a higher-value vibe. Whether it’s rock-star, athlete, business owner, trendy fashion star—you always want to convey high social status. Observe how the coolest guys in the clubs are dressed, and model them. Scan through fashion magazines and watch entertainment shows to give yourself a better idea of what kind of appearance is high-value.

You see, the human brain takes in so much information that is forced to make split second decisions about people’s character, social situation, and new environments. This is called Thin Slicing, a term made popular by Malcom Gladwell in his book “Blink”. Many people, upon recognizing this truth will rebel against it. “I don’t want to dress like what Hollywood tells me to. I am my own unique person!” Well you are, but guess what. She’ll never get to know who you actually are unless you play by the rules of the game. There will be plenty of time, once you have attracted her, to reveal your true personality. I promise.

#9 – He has poor hygiene.

Guy’s, this is an easy fix! I shouldn’t even have to write a section about it! But I am, because guys continue to violate hygienic standards! When we talk about hygiene in social terms it’s mostly related to offenses of the olfactory. In laymen’s terms, that’s your sense of smell. I haven’t listed activities like combing your hair and shaving because those fall under the category of fashion. Some guys can pull off the 5 o’clock shadow very well.

So before you go out, make sure you shower and use antiperspirant. Be sure your clothes are clean and washed. Always you brush your teeth and take gum or mints into the field with you. One cool tool I always carry with me is Listerine strips. They are tiny enough to fit in the small pocket on your jeans, they contain enough uses to last you an entire weekend, and they blast you with minty freshness that lasts.

#8 – His friends are losers.

Do you ever go out with your dorky friends, thinking that you’ll stand out and look cool? Guess what. You really just look like king of the nerds! Seriously. When people thin slice they assess your value based off the value of your peers.

So for shits and giggles lets do some elementary math, my dear Watson. Let’s use a scale of 10. And let’s say your 3 friends are all 4’s. Let’s be generous and assume that you’re an 8. You do the math. You, being part of your group, is going to get an average social value score of 5. Bummer.

We’re not recommending that you ditch your friends. After all, they are your friends. But on the other hand, don’t your friends say a lot about who you are as a person? Therefore whenever you go out to attract women, you should bring along your best wingmen. And if you’re the type of man who doesn’t leave any soldier behind, you can start to share your new journey in attraction with your chodey friends. That way you both become stronger and more adept in the field of dating and mating.

#7 – He conveys neediness.

Humans have the ability to sense whether or not someone has an agenda. When a beggar walks up to you on the street, you can already feel that he’s going to ask you for money, before it happens. Women experience almost the same exact response when a low value man comes up to her in a bar and starts talking to her.

She knows he wants something from her, whether it’s her phone number or sex. Attractive women are approached so often by men trying to take value, that they have developed very efficient strategies to protect themselves by those unsavory feelings these men give her.

Instead, you need to be a value giver. Your initial interactions with her should be fun, and not require any commitment on her part. This is accomplished mostly through body-language, subject-matter, and “vibe”. Vibe is feeling an individual’s intuition gives them about a particular interaction or experience. Demonstrating the mentality that you may walk away at any moment will not only convey a non-needy attitude, but will also leverage your value because of the scarcity principle.

#6 – He is boring or ran out of things to say.

When comedians get up on stage, they have scripted routines that they perform. They practice their jokes hundreds of times before they actually present it to a live audience. Picking up an attractive woman can be viewed in a very similar manner. If you are new to the attraction game, I highly suggest you write down the material you plan on chatting with women about. Once you have it memorized, you should practice it until it is polished and evokes the kind of response you’re looking for.

Okay, let me stop you right there. The most typical reaction from men when I tell them they should practice their material before they use it is “But I want to be natural, using canned material seems fake to me”. Their reaction is understandable; I even felt the same way when I was learning the game over 7 years ago. Since then I have come to realize that being natural is a very nebulous concept. Is it natural to be bad with women? If so, should you continue to be natural forever? Isn’t it just as natural to want to be good with women, and take steps to improve yourself? These are just those steps.

For instance, in Karate Kid, when Mr. Miyagi taught Daniel the basics of fighting by waxing-on and waxing-off, Daniel FELT the EXACT SAME way. He wanted to fight at the highest level, which is a state where you are completely natural. But before he could do that, he had to learn the basics of the martial arts. Love and war aren’t so different, and the steps humans take towards mastery are the exact same. The light at the end of the tunnel is that if you dedicate yourself to this process, you will return to a state where you are both completely natural and totally attractive to the women you meet.

#5 – He didn’t initiate and escalate physical contact

Many men are uncomfortable with the idea of touching strangers. It doesn’t feel right, so they don’t do it. Society has become more disjointed and dehumanized. Children are trained at a young age to keep their hands to themselves, when it directly goes against their natural evolutionary instincts to touch and make contact with others.

There is a second force at work. Animals and humans in express dominance over others via a variety of ways: Eye Contact, Proximity, Social Cues, Voice Tonality, and TOUCH. Men don’t touch because they don’t feel they have permission to, but it’s exactly the type of man who is comfortable with touching that attracts women.

Imagine you’re the President of the United States. You’re at a political rally. You’re shaking hands, kissing babies, and rubbing shoulders with the most important figures in history. There is a woman there who is upset and crying. Wouldn’t it feel natural to touch her on the shoulder, and ask her what’s wrong? If you had enough time you might even embrace her and console her. It’s your instinctual duty as a high-value man to do this.

#4 – He didn’t win the group.

Women of beauty are rarely found alone. You have a better chance of being born with two penises than finding a legitimate 10 it a bar all by her lonesome. If for some reason you happen to find a 10 alone, she’s not. She’s waiting for someone: Someone to get back from the bathroom, someone to meet her, someone to get off work. I’m not saying this to discourage you; I’m saying this to actually motivate you, because initial attraction is a social game. I cannot tell you how many students I have seen lose their sets because they didn’t win over the group.

Here’s a quick example. You go up to a 2set. You open the set and its going well. Then you start to divert your attention to your target. The other girl starts to get jealous because you’re giving her friend all the attention. Next, where it gets even worse, her friend is going to get bored. Even though things are going splendidly for the two of you, the third wheel is starting to squeak. Eventually she’ll try to pull her friend away from you, and it will work because her friend has a stronger emotional bond than you managed to build in 20 minutes.

How do you solve the situation? There are a number of ways. The easiest is a wingman. BOOM. Problem solved. You can also merge sets. This means you take the 2 set, and open another set with them. Then you get the conversation rolling, which will eventually buy yourself time to talk with your girl, without excluding her friend. The final way is simply to multitask. You provide enough value to the obstacle (her friend), while still building attraction with your target. If her friend thinks you’re cool enough, she may even facilitate the hookup!

#3 – He waited too long to approach.

Hovering is creepy, and girls notice that shit!  There is a principle that pickup artists use called the 3 second rule. It essentially says that once you notice a girl that you’re interested in, you have 3 seconds to get your ass from wherever you stand, to her in 3 seconds max.

If you wait to approach, not only will it lower your social value–You will become a chodestander—but you will also psych yourself out from taking action. You know what I’m talking about. You see that girl sitting at the bar; the situation looks prime. And because of the nervousness you feel, you wait until “the moment is right”. But have you noticed, that the moment never “becomes right”? You just continue to get more and more nervous, searching for how to take action until someone else walks up to her, or she walks away. Windows open, windows close. This one is now closed.

You’ll probably justify it later in your mind with some lame reason like “well she was smoking, or she wasn’t that hot anyway”, but you’re doing that just to make yourself feel better. We both know the truth. You wanted to approach and you didn’t. Why not just learn how to approach with confidence so you don’t have to worry about feeling that again?

#2 – He went for rapport too soon.

Every romance has a specific order of steps, a pattern that must be followed in order for a successful seduction. Naturals follow this pattern by instinct. One of the most important things we teach you in our workshops is the specific “Road-Map to Love”.

For instance, guys that come right up to a woman and offer to buy her a drink are trying to build comfort before they have generated attraction. Same thing with guys who assault women with a laundry list of questions: “So what’s your name, where are you from, what do you do, where did you go to school, etc” Those are actually fine questions, once she’s interested. But until you give her a reason to want to get to know you, she won’t care enough to continue the conversation once her drink is gone.

Instead, you should work on generating as much attraction as possible within the first 5-15 minutes of the interaction. Once she is interested and has displayed this interest through attraction signals, you can move into rapport and comfort to build an even stronger connection.

#1 – He has a lack of confidence.

Do you know the secret to confidence? It’s not some magical property. I’ll share it with you if you promise to actually work on it! The secret to confidence is competence. When you do something you’re good at, you naturally exude confidence. How do you become good? Practice and experience.

Was the NFL quarterback born with the passing and scrambling skills he has today? Absolutely not. He learned those skills play after play. Time after time. Experience after experience. And he had a coach to help him on the way. Mastery cannot be achieved alone. Greatness does not exist in a bubble.

If you can dedicate yourself to going out 3 times a week, and each time you’re out you open 8 different sets, by the end of the week you’ll have approached 24 girls. That means in a months time you will have talked to almost 100 girls, and over the course of a year over 1,000!

Can you imagine how much this will change your life? I promise you, you can’t! When I first started, I had no idea where the game would take me, and when I look back on how far I’ve come, it’s absolutely amazing! The same will be true for you. Only you can discover what your journey will have in store for you. Start your journey today.

Thank you for reading,

Brock

www.ThePandorasBox.net

www.ScientificAttraction.com